Would you change for someone? Would you be willing to be different person so that someone would accept you? I think that in today's world, especially among teenagers, people are really struggling to find their true image. Some people struggle so much that they are wiling to give up their true self just so that they may be welcomed into a certain group. I guess fitting in is everything these days. I say, "Who wants to fit in?" Personally, I figure fitting in is boring. Once you fit in, then you're just average. You're ordinary. Once you've lost your originality, you are no longer interesting.

It's sad. When I see boys and girls in the halls at school who all look exactly alike. Same hair, same sense of fashion, same type of people all huddled around them. How boring. Where is the excitement? It's like having a garden. If your garden is full of red roses and you have bright yellow sunflower in the mix, your garden is a lot more interesting. The sunflower's bold and bright petals and long stem give your garden a uniqueness all its own. This is what I always hope my life will be like. I hope that I will always be able to stand out like a sunflower in a bed of roses. Not that there is anything wrong roses. I love roses, but too many roses that are all exactly the same make life boring. You need a couple lillys and violets thrown in the mix. If you've failed to understand my metaphor, all I am saying is that a school full of cheerleaders would be lame. You need some skaters, smarties, jocks, rebels, and clowns to truly make it fun. There are too many teenagers who are always trying to fit the mold. Nobody should fit the same mold, and you shouldn't morph yourself into someone else's mold.

A lot of times, I see a lot of girls trying to change who they are so that boys will like them. First of all, if a guy doesn't like you for you, then he doesn't deserve your time. Second of all, no one who really likes you would ever ask you to change. Same with friends. If a group of girls doesn't want to hang out with the real you, then they don't deserve to hang out with you at all. No real friend or boyfriend would ever ask you to change. No real friend would ever prevent you from being who you really are. So, if you have friends who pressure you to be fake, or to be just like them, get rid of them. In most cases, friendships work out because two people are total opposites. If two people are exactly the same, what do they talk about? They are the same. They will never be able to share their opinions or points of view. It's ok to be friends with people who are different than you. Often times, you'll figure out that it's way more fun. Friends that have different qualities and talents often bring out the best in each other.

"Susie won't like me if I wear that shirt. I need to dress like Susie for boys to notice me." I know sometimes that this is what you may feel like. Believe me, I feel like this sometimes too. I know that there are girls who definately seem like they have it all. Perfect clothes, perfect hair, boys drool over them and they seem perfectly comfortable with themselves. Chances are, they are totally uncomfortable with themselves. Girls who seem to have everything are often insecure and not confident at all. They hide behind the boys and the hair, never letting out their true personality. They hold in their originality in fear that they will no longer be accepted. Who wants to be like that? Have fun! Be a a goofball at school. Chances are that those perfect girls are envying you. Jealous of your confidence to be loud and free. Your uniquness gives you your spark. Without your spark you are spiritless. Without your spirit, you're not you.

Next time someone tells you that you are weird, or that you are a goof, take it as a compliment. I mean, obviously they payed enough attention to you to notice that you aren't a wallflower. Don't change yourself for anyone. Not for your friends. Not for a guy or a girl. If a person likes you for you, than they are very lucky that they have gotten to know you. If a person is intimidated or offended by your individuality, then they will go threw life having missed out on a very cool person. Are you willing to change yourself so that you can fit the mold? Are you willing to lose your spark so that people will look at you differently? I'm not.